Thursday, 31 March 2011

The back to work debate.

I'm looking to go back to work. Its a controversial decision with some stay at home mums, I know.

I'd love to be a stay at home mum for good but in doing so I have to give up certain aspects of myself and as a family we go with out certain things. It is the balance of these issues that has led to me looking for a full time job again.

I don't judge anyone for their decisions and I'd like to think I won't be judged for mine either as they took much thought and I have made the choices I feel will help everyone in my family be happiest.

Mainly I am very good at what I do, I'd like to reach the top of my game and I can't do that part time or sat at home watching Kyle and reading Paddington.

I'd like our family to have some nice exotic holidays and be able to live comfortably instead of budgeting from one wage.

I want Tabitha to attend a nursery, she will love it. I want her Daddy to be able to drop her off and pick her up with arms full of glitter covered pictures.

Perhaps most importantly for me I want to have the budget to be able turn up outside my mans work and whisk him off to a hotel for a spontaneous night drinking.

Keep your fingers crossed for me as I hunt for the perfect job.


  1. No you shouldn't be judged! I am looking into freelance work myself. Every choice is personal to you and your family! :) Good luck with the job search!

  2. Good luck chick! Have my fingers crossed for you, life is about to get awesome I just know it. And if anyone even thinks to judge, tell them frankly to fuck orf!

  3. Arrggh, Im going back to work full time so soon and its only recently i am wobbling.

    Im totally with you on what you've said. Im good at my job, I earn decent money but i want these things on top of being with my children full time. I also know its never going to happen that way.

    Going back to work means the time i will have with my children can be filled with fun things and exciting places and like you i can afford to get out there with my man and enjoy some grown up time without worrying I won't have enough left for the boys.

    Its a hard thing to do, i feel your pain. No one should judge you for that, its the way things have to be sometimes.

    Your life, your choice x

  4. Spontaneous drinking.....yes, I'm sure I remember what this is....I may have dreamt it though!
    My first baby is now 13 weeks old and I'm due back to work in August, (I run an aerospace lab). The problem is, I have no interest in it any more and doing everything in my power to source an alternative income that I can earn whilst sat on my baby-weight infused behind!
    I find that the cost of childcare sort of negates a large chunk of my full time salary so not sure it would be financially worth me returning.
    As the main income earner though, it's hard for me to justify staying at home. I just don't think I'm ready to leave my son with a stranger, perhaps that will change as he gets more boisterous!!

    Kerry xx

  5. Elizabeth aka Mommatwo1 April 2011 at 10:16

    Good luck with your job hunt.
    I want to go back to work - but not for the reasons above, it's not about holidays or luxuries, or even affording the basics - it's because the women who raised me worked and did very important work, so I feel like that's how I ought to parent - but more than that I LIKE working, and I miss it.

  6. relucthousedad1 April 2011 at 14:31

    Hi there, would you do an email interview with me for my blog? My wife went back to work because I couldn't find a job after being made redundant (I was a magazine editor) and I would love to present the 'other view'. My email address is

  7. Drop me an email using the button top right and let me know what your after.


  8. relucthousedad4 April 2011 at 10:27

    Hi Sarah, your email button directs me to set up a Mail account, which I don't have. I'm on Yahoo.
    My email address is
    We're also Tweeters I'm
    Congrats on the job, btw.
    That's exactly what I'd like to interview you about - how it came about, how you feel, how your partner feels, what kind of wrench it will be to leave little 'un.
    My wife went through all of these emotions when she went back to work (she is now the Editor of Take a Break magazine) and I would like to share other people's stories on my blog not just my own whingeing.
    Keith Kendrick

  9. I'll try and drop you an email asap, all a bit hectic at the moment.

    It should take you to mumrablog (at) hotmail (dot) com

    I'll have a look at it see why it doesn't, bloody widgets!

  10. How refreshing to hear someone being so positive about returning to work! I went back part time in Jan, 3.5 days a week... and I'm not sure if it was the right thing, because, as you say, you can't get to the top of your game if you're part time. Harsh but true. So, now I feel a bit trapped, and I'm thinking maybe I should look for something full time- but that means giving up my extra time with the baba, who's only just turned one. Plus, I earn more per hour than the other half, so I kind of feel like I'm plunging us into poverty by cutting my hours. No idea what to do next. Arrrgh!